Houston we HAVE a problem!

I have been having technically difficulties with my blog. It's taken great time to post ANY blog. For some reason the "publish post" button is not working for me. I have to "Save Now" then click on the EDIT option on my dashboard, then check the box next to the saved blog draft, and THEN click publish blog.
I am also UNABLE to edit ANY of my blogs.

For this reason it is doubtful that I will continue this blog much longer. I might be transferring these blog posts to a new blog, then start w/new posts once I have gathered my blogs from here, and made sure their transference is smooth, posting is working, etc.

The last blog I posted (baby name-Violet) was a draft from 4 months ago (as you can tell by the question on Y!A i asked about it is 4 months old- I asked that question the DAY I did the BN review of Violet). Due to the problems, I left it as a draft and focused on my personal blog, and personal life.

I don't know when I will start moving my blog, since I am still focused on my personal blog and things going on w/my life at the moment. Hopefully I will have things up and running again before the end of the year. Until then, please enjoy my blog as-is and as always, I am always looking for new names to review, so do not hesitate to contact me through comments or email lady_lilly_96@yahoo.com with suggestions, comments, or if you just want to talk baby names. :) thanks. J.Kristen

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Name of the Day- Violet

Today's baby girl name is Violet.


VIOLET
Gender: Feminine

Usage: English

Pronounced: VIE-lət, VIE-ə-lət

From the English word violet for the purple flower, ultimately derived from Latin viola. It was common in Scotland from the 16th century, and it came into general use as an English given name during the 19th century.

The name Violet first appears on the Social Security List in 1880 at the number 239 spot. Violet Slowly increased in popularity through the last part of the 19th century and into the 20th century. By 1901 Violet was in the top 100 at the number 91 spot. In 1926 Violet was at the number 96 spot and the following year slipped off the top 100 at the number 103 spot. Violet steadily decreased in popularity over the next five decades and in 1972 fell off the list completely, making a quick comeback to the list in 1973 at the number 928 spot and in 1974 at number 944. Violet again fell off the top 100 list in 1975, and didn't make a return until 1981 at number 996 and again in 1982 at number 994, then fell off the list again in 1983. Violet reappears on the list over tens years later at number 904 in 1998, and slowly gained momentum up the list in 2004 at the number 586, and jumped to number 372 the following year in 2005. As of 2010 Violet sits comfortably at the number 123 spot.

I find Violet one of the prettiest flower names for baby girls. It's soft and gentle yet has a great sound and strength to it. I consider Violet to be one of those old classics that are making a comeback lately. I am thrilled to see older names coming back into favor over the last five years or so. I think a great old classic is much more supstantial than some of the new-age sounding made-up or trendy names out there. Violet is a name that a little girl wears well, and one that grows up lovely with a child into adulthood. Unlike some of the more trendy -ee- ending names I have seen popping up everywhere I think Violet can stand the test of time, and will not sound cliche or over used in years to come.

I can picture a little Violet as a dark haired little girl with big wondering eyes, or even on a light haired little girl with freckles. It's a name that will sound professional on a grown woman, but soft and sweet on a little girl. Being one of my favorite flower names, I find it simple and easy to pair with first and middles of all styles. It's a great name that can give flare to a common first or middle name, or downplay a name that might be trendy or over the top unique. It's a name that will bring a smile to people's face upon hearing it 9 times out of 10.

Nicknames for Violet are sparse, but still sweet. They include the typical Vi, and Vivi. Less common nicknames might include: Viola, Vilah, or even Lettie. One of the more strange nicknames I've heard for a girl named Violet was Ollie. I wouldn't recommend it, but if your Violet happens to be a tomboy, it might be right up her alley.

First/Middles for Violet as I said earlier are vast and the styles that Violet will fit are endless. Pairing Violet with any first or middle name seems a breeze for me personally, and I like the variety of styles and choices that this sweet name allows. There is a combo for everyone I think.

First/Middle suggestions for Violet:

Violet Joy

Violet Ann

Violet Danielle

Violet Grace

Violet Matilda

Violet Carys

Violet Ariana

Violet Simone

Violet Brianne/a

Penelope Violet

Emmeline Violet

Rachel Violet

Willow Violet

Olivia Violet

Jocelyn Violet

Natalie Violet

Caroline Violet

Kaylee Violet

Zoe Violet

Tamara Violet

Alternatives for the name Violet might be something like:

Viola

Vera

Vivienne

Verona

Visola

Vlora

Vione

Vienna

Villette

Of the alternatives I've listed I love Viola (I'm biased of course, as this was one of my great-grandmother's middle names), I also like Vera, Verona, Villette, and I am really liking the idea and sound of Visola and Vlora for some odd reason. For public opinion on the name Violet please visit the question I've asked about it on Y!A .

Overall I find the name Violet a great old classic name. One that will age wonderfully well as a girl grows into adulthood. A name that fits many style combos for first/middle names to be paired with. One that will be around for a long time.

J. Kristen

The Unisex Defense

I've heard a lot of arguments lately about unisex naming. But what truly is unisex? The definition of unisex is:

1. Designed for or suitable to both sexes: unisex clothing; unisex hairstyles.
2. Not distinguished or distinguishable on the basis of sex; androgynous in appearance: cultivated a unisex look.

Are names truly unisex then? Can one be? To me most people that argue for unisex name usages have not sited the androgynous qualities of a name, but rather the effeminate qualities of a traditional masculine boys name now used mostly on little baby girls. There is never (that I have seen) the flip side argument for a traditional girls name to be used on a boy instead. The passionate unisex name lover will argue till they are blue in the face that their precious little snowflake should have whatever name she [the mother] deems worthy of her daughter, and that because such-in-such name has been used mostly on little girls lately, it's 'unisex and worthy for their own daughters'.

Look, I get it. Every parent wants to find the perfect name for their child, and each of us have our own little list of favorites and maybe even less common, rare, or random names that we love no matter what anyone else thinks. Obviously this would include some boys names that someone might find appealing for their daughter, instead of their son. Some names we hear mostly on girls, even though they are traditional boys names, so we become accustomed to defining them in a more feminine way rather than masculine.

For instance: The name Ashley. I know it's traditionally masculine, I understand and know the history and etymology of this name. It's still popular for boys in some countries, in fact. Yet the American mentality has deemed this name now unsuitable for boys because it's so widely used on little girls. Even I can understand the association being considered: Feminine. Yet, the fact remains that this name was, and will always be a masculine name, now popular on girls too. Just because a name becomes popular on girls, doesn't mean that is all the sudden changes it's history or etymology or some how devalues it's masculine roots. You cannot erase the past, and the same can be said of baby names. The past (history) of a name will be eternal. No matter the popularity or gender the name is preferred on, it will still have it's historical roots.

There will always be traditionalists when it comes to naming, who resist the boys names on girls trend with everything in their being. Likewise, there will always be those who will be out looking for the newest trend. Using boys names for girls is only ONE of a myriad of trends lately.

So where do I stand on the whole thing?:

I am a traditionalist most of the time, but I have to say the arguments I see justifying the use of traditional boys names on girls leaves me completely unsatisfied. The logic used to make this trend 'legit' is hypocritical at it's best, and utterly ridiculous at it's worst.

Some people I've seen are more reasonable with their opinions and explanations of why they chose to use a boys name for a girl. When someone is just honest about it and states: "Yes, we realize it's a boys name, but I love it, and want to use it on my little princess anyways and I don't care what you think about it either", I think: Okay- I don't agree, BUT THANK YOU for at least being honest. It's JUST your preference, it's not some 'cause' you are trying to shove down people's throats. Good, use it, love it...whatever. At least they said what was true. They know it's a boys name (traditionally)...they just don't care. That's a VALID reason to use a name. Honestly it is. I don't have my head so far up my own ass that I cannot understand that sometimes the love of a name out weighs *anything* that anyone else has to say about it.

What gets my blood boiling about it, are the arguments full of nothing but conjecture. Theses would be the following:

1. "It's used on girls mostly now, so it's not masculine anymore"

- says who? has the name changed it's meaning all the sudden? it's etymology? Has the whole world embraced this thinking or is this a lame attempt on the namers part to justify using the name to themselves? If you truly love it, use it and don't explain it to me or anyone else....what's the point?

2. "It sounds too girly for a boy nowadays"

- when was the memo put out that the second someone found a name 'feminine in sound' it suddenly was deemed "feminine"? and what about any boys with the name that have already been born, and carry the name? are they now effeminate? This argument makes me annoyed more than any other. It's literally bashing ANY parent that chooses this name for their boys and/or insults the boys already named this. the feminine or masculine qualities associated to the SOUND of a name is purely subjective, the history and etymology of a name, is NOT subjective, it's based in origin, usage history, and facts.

3. "Anyone naming their son this nowadays, the son would be teased"

- Why? Just because you deem it unworthy? OR perhaps it's just you grabbing for any validation in your choice of a name. I personally would never want to use a name for my daughter that could possibly be thought of as 'tease worthy" for ANY sex. To use this reasoning as a way to justify your choices for a girl rather than a boy is such a huge insult to any boy with that name. You're saying, your child is more entitled to the name because of her gender. Wake up people, this is called sexism.

4. "It's unisex so I can use it if I want"

- The funny thing about this reason is that most of these people all for unisex names will then turn around and deem said "unisex" name inappropriate for boys, but not for girls. That's not unisex then. That's name hijacking. Turning a traditionally masculine name into a name usable for feminine use while at the same time, making it inappropriate for the opposite sex it originated on, is NOT making the name unisex, it's separating the usage from the original sex and then making it's usage on the traditional sex 'shameful'.

I am so tired of hearing people using these excuses to justify their choice for a name that is traditionally masculine, for feminine use. You never hear people arguing for the use of a traditional feminine name for the use on the opposite sex. It's sexism at it's best.

My conclusions:
If you're all hell bent on naming your little sweetpea princess daughter: Madison Riley Doodlebug McGee....Please don't get your panties in a twist over anyone wanting to use the same names for their boys. If you're going to use the "unisex" defense, then use it properly. To defend the use of a name you deem unisex is to defend ANY usage of the name regardless of gender. If you cannot do that, if you associate a traditionally masculine name with girls only, then DO NOT use this 'unisex' excuse to defend your choices, because you're not truly for 'unisex' names then, you are for the use of boys names on girls. Unisex goes both ways. Period.

-Jae (MW&M)

Rare Baby Girl Name Poll Winner- Adelaide

The winner of the Rare Baby Girl Name Poll is Adelaide.


ADELAIDE
Gender: Feminine

Usage: English, Italian

Pronounced: AD-ə-layd (English)

From the French form of the Germanic name Adalheidis, which was composed of the elements adal "noble" and heid "kind, sort, type". It was borne in the 10th century by Saint Adelaide, the wife of the Holy Roman Emperor Otto the Great. The name became common in Britain in the 19th century due to the popularity of the German-born wife of King William IV, for whom the city of Adelaide in Australia was named in 1836.

Adelaide first appears on the Social Security list in 1880 at the number 186 spot. Adelaide slowly decreased in popularity into the first half of the 20th century. In 1946 Adelaide dropped off the top 1000 list completely, but showed up again the following year in 1947 at the number 987 spot and again in 1948 at the number 949 spot before disappearing from the list again in 1949. From 1949 to 2004 Adelaide remained off the top 1000 list. In 2005 Adelaide reappears at the number 901 spot, and then decreased in popularity again in 2006 at the number 924 spot. The popular 'older name' fad has helped Adelaide out since 2007, jumping to the number 713 spot and in 2008 moving up further to the number 552 spot. Adelaide has rested in at the halfway mark in the latest updates from the SS list at the number 567 spot for 2009.

I myself was hoping for a bigger jump in Adelaide's popularity, but it might pick up again. More and more I see older names being used these days. I think parents are looking for something different, rare, unique..and yet familiar and classic. A good trend if you ask me. Sure Adelaide isn't as popular as the fan favorite Emma, Abigail, or Isabella, but it has the same classic feel and sound. Addie seems to be a favorite nickname among baby name forums I frequent. It's a cute twist on the more popular Abbie/Abby. And that is what parents are looking for, cute, familiar...but different.

I think Adelaide is a wonderful name with great personality, style and femininity with out being cutesy or goofy. The spelling is unique enough to please the trendier set, yet classic enough to make the 'old school name lovers' very happy. I don't see this name becoming overly popular unless, of course, we have some other sort of die hard "twi-ish" book/movie/etc come out in the next 5 years with a female character/lead whose name happens to *be* Adelaide. Cult like movies/books seem to happen each decade, so maybe in 2020 Adelaide will be the next Isabella...who knows.

Adelaide's nickname possibilities do not stop at Addie alone. If Addie is just not your cup of tea, or too close to the more popular Abbie/Abby, other nicknames include:
Dell
Dela/Della
Lainey
Elle
Ellie
Ella
Adele/Adelle
and even Ida

First/Middles for the name Adelaide for me will be an absolute joy to come up with. Since I find the name Adelaide so fun, refreshing, and adorable I have tons of ideas jumping through my head. Paired w/a modern name, a classic one, a romantic one....they all sound fairly great. I think a 2 syllable middle sounds best, but honestly it's the flow of the total package that makes the name, whether it's 1 syllable or 6, 7, 8..etc.

First/Middle name suggestions for Adelaide might be:

Adelaide Constance
Adelaide Joy
Adelaide Elise
Adelaide Claire
Adelaide Rosalie
Adelaide Fleur
Adelaide Catherine
Adelaide Celeste
Adelaide Liliana

Lucille Adelaide
Carmen Adelaide
Delphine Adelaide
Beatrice Adelaide
Bethany Adelaide
Gillian Adelaide
Romona Adelaide
Gwendolen Adelaide
Willow Adelaide

Alternatives for the name Adelaide might be something like:
Adele/Adelle
Adeline
Adalina
Adelphine
Adrienne
Adrianna
Audrey
Auden

Of the alternatives listed I really love Adele, Adeline, Adrienne, and Auden. All are equally 'rare' names and would be darling. The more extreme rare: Adelphine has it's own charm as well. For public opinion on the name Adelaide please visit the question I've asked about it on Y!A

Overall I find the name Adelaide a very sweet, classic, romantic, darling name. It's rarity is half it's charm. I think many first/middle combos would work here, esp. if you're trying to come up with an elegant feminine name for your little one.

J. Kristen

Baby Name- Ruby

Baby Name- Ruby.


RUBY
Gender: Feminine

Usage: English

Pronounced: ROO-bee [key]

Simply means "ruby" from the name of the precious stone (which ultimately derives from Latin ruber "red"), which is the birthstone of July. It came into use as a given name in the 19th century.

On the SS list Ruby first appears in 1880 at the number 149 spot. Ruby made the top 100 list in 1888 at the number 94 spot and made the top 50 in 1901 at the number 49 spot. Ruby's top ranking spot was at number 22 in 1911, then Ruby made a steady decline over the next two decades. In 1946 Ruby fell from the top 100 list at the number 105 spot. Ruby stayed w/in the top 500 names for the next several decades, and has recently had a boost in popularity. In 2009 Ruby sits at the number 108 spot, and I suspect that it will continue to rise in popularity.

Personally I have to be honest. I've had my ups and downs with this name. I used to really not care for Ruby, but have since come to like it quite a bit. I still think it's a 'go to' cutesy name, but it's one of the better ones. I think it will become a bit more popular over the next 2-4 years then fade out in popularity again, but will remain a steady name on the top 1000.

Middle/First name suggestions for Ruby might be:
Ruby Elise
Ruby Catherine
Ruby Charlotte
Ruby Estelle
Ruby Corinne
Ruby Paige

Madeleine Ruby
Evelyn Ruby
Vivienne Ruby
Claire Ruby
Alexandra Ruby
Caitlin Ruby
Sienna Ruby

Alternatives for the name Ruby might be something like:
Rue
Rowena
Rudy
Ruth
Rowanne

Of the alternatives I really love Ruth and Rowanne. Both would be a bit more rare than Ruby, but have the same stylish feel to them. For public opinion on the name Ruby please visit the question I've asked about it on Y!A

Overall I think Ruby is a very nice name, solid, feminine, and will be a popular favorite for many years to come.

J. Kristen

Baby Name of the Day Poll Winner- Ronan

Oh my! It's been a long time since I've done one of these. Do forgive me! It was a crazy summer filled with kids, vacations, and of course the homecoming of my husband who was overseas for 8 months. Now that things have settled down I think I will be doing several of these blogs today. I've been in a blog mood. :) First up, the Rare boy name poll winner (also please vote on the new poll- Rare Girls names).

Favorite Rare Boy Name Poll Winner- Ronan.

RÓNÁN
Gender: Masculine

Usage: Irish

Pronounced: RON-awn [key]

Means "little seal", derived from Irish rón "seal" combined with a diminutive suffix.

Ronan first appears on the Social Security's list in 2001 at the number 861 spot. Though this name is very old in Ireland it's quite a new and unique name to the US. Ronan has slowly, but steadily, moved it's way up the list in the last 8 yrs. As of 2009 (the latest list of names to be released by the SS offices), Ronan sits at the number 566 spot. I expect Ronan to gain popularity over time, as I've seen it being suggested more and more on baby name forums and blogs.

I personally find this name refreshing, new, inventive, yet with a solid foundation in history and tradition. I do have a heavy bias for Irish names, but Ronan truly is a nice name. It's strong, masculine, has substance, and will age well on a boy into adulthood. Pronounced as RON-awn overseas, the US pronunciation tends to be ROW-nan. Both are nice, but being American I do prefer the US pronunciation. I find Ronan to be very similar in sound and feel to Roman (another favorite of mine) and equally as rare and unique. Ronan is a unique name in the sense that it's not some tacky, trendy, cr8tvly spelled monstrosity that I've been witnessing lately.

I think that parents looking for a trendy or unique name could even appreciate the qualities that Ronan has to offer as a name for their sons. There is a very mature and "cool factor" to the sound. Having deep Irish roots this name has true substance and will not be another flash in the pan trend name. I believe, truly, that this name will hold up for years and years, and will continue to become more popular. I can only hope though that Ronan doesn't become the new Aidan (commonly spelled Aiden and Ayden, or even Aaden). Nothing would break my heart more than to have it become a trendy mess as the fabulous Aidan has become.

Ronan brings to mind a dark haired (or soft brown haired) little boy w/long dark lashes over beautiful hazel or deep brown eyes. I can see a very likable yet 'tough' boy w/this name. A really masculine boy, athletic, tough, spunky, and fun. This name will age brilliantly and I can imagine an adult man w/this name to be extremely handsome, brave, confident and almost mysteriously alluring.

Ronan has some great first/middle name possibilities. It's such a great well rounded name that anything you pair with it should only enhance it's handsomeness. I think many styles would suit this name, be them modern, traditional, unusual, or even bizarrely trendy (not that I'd like the last suggestion much). Some ideas for first/middles might be:

Ronan Wyatt

Ronan Paul

Ronan Thomas

Ronan Wesley

Ronan Tucker

Ronan Pierce

Ronan Jackson

Ronan Bennett

Ronan Scott

Ronan Keith

Everett Ronan

Elliott Ronan

Jacob Ronan

Anthony Ronan

Caleb Ronan

David Ronan

Blaine Ronan

Marcus Ronan

Silas Ronan

Lucas Ronan

Alternatives for Ronan are many. R boy names seem to be very strong in nature as a given. Some great alternatives are:

Roman
Robin
Ronald
Ronnie
Rollin
Rowan
Ruhan
Rudy

Of the alternatives listed I really love the sound of Roman, Ronald, Rowan, and Ruhan (which sort of reminds me of Cohen). For public opinion on the name Ronan, please visit the question I've asked about it on Y!A

Overall I think Ronan is a very masculine, very handsome name that is a rarity these days in the US. I think it will be a great addition to any baby name lovers list of favorites, or to expecting parents list of possible names for their little boy. It's masculine, handsome, strong and unique in a very good way.

J. Kristen

Baby Name of the Day- Siobhan

Continuing the baby name of the day marathon (lol), the next baby name is Siobhan.


SIOBHAN
Gender: Feminine
Usage: Irish
Pronounced: shi-VAWN

Irish form of Jehanne, a Norman French variant of JEANNE.

Siobhan is another Irish form of Joan meaning "God is gracious." A popular name in Ireland where the anglicised versions are often used. Siobhan McKenna, an Irish actress who died in 1986, was considered by many as a woman who personified all that was good about being Irish.

Siobhan first appears on the SS list in 1979 at the number 629 spot. It lost favor over the next decade and in 1987 was at the number 911 spot. After 1987 Siobhan fell off the list and has never returned. Siobhan only enjoyed nine years in the top 1000.

I personally have loved the name Siobhan for years. Said shi-VAWN, the name is more popularly used in the US when spelled Chevonne. I prefer the traditional Irish spelling myself. It has character, origin, charm and grace. The Gaelic language is fabulously rich and full. A very round delightfully musical language.
Siobhan is a fabulously beautiful rare name. It's elegant and sweet. The name is quite uncommon in the US, but very popular in Ireland. Siobhan has been a favorite of mine for a very long time, and though most people I've shared this name with give me a strange double take (esp when they see the spelling), I find it a very refreshing change from all the Emma's, and Isabella's, and lord knows what else. I think parents seeking a rare and unique name would do well to look to traditional Irish names for something different. None of those misspelled trendy names- Ahliveeah is still Olivia, even if you spell it jacked up, and there is nothing unique about a common name misspelled to the point of ridiculousness.

Siobhan conjures images of emerald green fields, and castles by dark lochs. Cliche of me? Perhaps, but it's a romantic image that I adore. So I will hold true my picture of the romantic Siobhan.

First/Middle names for Siobhan I find can be from any origin and style. Everything from the common to the elaborate seem to flow well w/this name. Some examples of First/Middles for Siobhan might be:

Siobhan Corinne
Siobhan Kelsey
Siobhan Emmeline
Siobhan Eve
Siobhan Sarah
Siobhan Madeleine
Siobhan Clara
Siobhan Lola
Siobhan Anastasia

Leila Siobhan
Marissa Siobhan
Rose Siobhan
Natalie Siobhan
Lydia Siobhan
Elise Siobhan
Cora Siobhan
Evangeline Siobhan

Alternatives for Siobhan might be (and this is based on SOUND, not particularly spelling):

Shahan
Shannon
Shalan
Shalom
Shania
Shanna
Sharee
Sharla
Sharon
Shauna
Shelby
Sheena
Sheri
Sheryl
Shirley

Cherie
Cheryl
Chevonne

Some of the alternatives are a bit of a stretch and I'm really not all that fond of the -sh- sound names other than the more classic sounding ones like Sharon, Shannon, Cheryl and Shirley. For public opinion on the name Siobhan please visit the question I asked about it on Y!A.

Over all Siobhan is a sweet under used name in the US. It pairs beautifully with many different styles of first/middle names and will age brilliantly on a baby into adulthood. I find Siobhan a diamond in the rough type of name.

J. Kristen